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The Problem of "Resentment-Forgiveness": An Existential View
The article is devoted to the inner culture of the individual – the ability to forgive. The author believes that modern mass culture does not provide positive examples of forgiveness, and education does not teach this either. Resentment is considered in the article as chagrin, passive suff ering that arises as a result of restraining anger at a partner in personal relationships – friendship, love.
The very occurrence of resentment is associated with deceived expectations, when the Other does not correspond to our ideas, does not respond to our aspirations. The author identifi es two types of resentment, in one version it is a resentment at the breakup, when the relationship has already passed, and the mental pain persists and becomes obsessive. The second option is when resentment is present in a continuing relationship with the hope of reconciliation and the resumption of good feelings. But in both cases, for someone who is off ended, it is important to set on overcoming the negative state, on a conscious decision to "release yourself from
the prison of resentment", to resume a positive mood. The article highlights various psychological and existential-moral techniques and attitudes for getting rid of resentment, in particular, it indicates the importance of accepting the fact that the partner's behavior is not subject to all our hopes and desires, as well as the importance of maintaining internal balance and a sound, balanced view of
one's own self.
The very occurrence of resentment is associated with deceived expectations, when the Other does not correspond to our ideas, does not respond to our aspirations. The author identifi es two types of resentment, in one version it is a resentment at the breakup, when the relationship has already passed, and the mental pain persists and becomes obsessive. The second option is when resentment is present in a continuing relationship with the hope of reconciliation and the resumption of good feelings. But in both cases, for someone who is off ended, it is important to set on overcoming the negative state, on a conscious decision to "release yourself from
the prison of resentment", to resume a positive mood. The article highlights various psychological and existential-moral techniques and attitudes for getting rid of resentment, in particular, it indicates the importance of accepting the fact that the partner's behavior is not subject to all our hopes and desires, as well as the importance of maintaining internal balance and a sound, balanced view of
one's own self.
resentment, off ended, abuser, anger, expectations, aggression, forgiveness, switching attention, love The article is devoted to the inner culture of the individual – the ability to forgive. The author believes that mod